We (Richard, Moley, & I) went to Anton & Jen's house today. We picked them up and then had lunch at P.F. Chang's in the Valley. Sherman Oaks Galleria or something like that. I like the Peking duck thing there, but it really isn't good Chinese food. It's better than Chin Chin's though, the food is horrible there! Then we went over to their house and watched Moley hump their dog Mugen. Both dogs are boys yet they both really like to hump each other. Something is not right.
Later in the evening Richard & I got ready for our belated Valentine's Day
dinner. We went to Beau Rivage in Malibu. I've only been there once before. Actually, I went on my first "date" with Richard there about a year and a half ago. So after getting all dressed up we headed up PCH to the little Mediterranean restaurant.
The place is really cute. It's right off the coast and has a very cozy feel to it. There are lots and lots of flowers and... walls filled with plaques and awards for the food and service. Actually, the service is one of the best... they actually seat you right away. (Unlike Spago's where even if you have reservations, you have to wait 45 minutes). The food is amazing also... I know I don't really like lobster, but I ended up having the lobster bisque (which I definitely recommend!) and lobster ravioli. I don't like -WHOLE- lobster but I don't mind it minced up and cooked in other things Richard had some Hawaiian tuna carpaccio and veal chops... he loves the lobster tail there but he's allergic now . It was nice to have some time alone to just relax and have a real conversation over dinner.
In the past couple of weeks we both have done a lot of reflecting about things and we started talking a lot about... perception. He brought up this really good point that everything in life really is just how you perceive it. I mean it's like vision. We are not "seeing" color... what we see is our perception of color once the light comes through our eyes. And using that same analogy, people are annoying only if we perceive them as annoying. Situations are what you make of it. I mean this sounds almost as simple as being optimistic vs. pessimistic but I think it's something we all overlook daily. I mean, we only think optimistically or pessimistically about the future, or things that we hope for. We never really apply it to people, or things that have happened in the past. I mean, when you really sit down and think about it, and pick things apart, you can see a lot of things in a different light. Also we talked a lot about accepting things that we cannot change. I mean in this world each person is only in charge of their own life. Who are you to go out and try to change someone else? I suppose he is right... your first step should be to look inside of yourself and change that part of you that perceives whatever problem it is to be a problem. A lot of conflicts arise in relationships when someone says "Why can't they just see things my way?".. and not enough of us say "Why do they see it this way and what kind of sense can I make of it so that it doesn't bother me?"... does that make sense? I don't know. If this really is a new way of thinking I'll try it out for a couple of weeks and see if it really will make a positive difference in my relationships.
Well it's 1am so I think I'm off to bed. I cannot wait to go to the optometrist next week... my glasses give me a migraine whenever I wear them.
Later in the evening Richard & I got ready for our belated Valentine's Day
dinner. We went to Beau Rivage in Malibu. I've only been there once before. Actually, I went on my first "date" with Richard there about a year and a half ago. So after getting all dressed up we headed up PCH to the little Mediterranean restaurant.
The place is really cute. It's right off the coast and has a very cozy feel to it. There are lots and lots of flowers and... walls filled with plaques and awards for the food and service. Actually, the service is one of the best... they actually seat you right away. (Unlike Spago's where even if you have reservations, you have to wait 45 minutes). The food is amazing also... I know I don't really like lobster, but I ended up having the lobster bisque (which I definitely recommend!) and lobster ravioli. I don't like -WHOLE- lobster but I don't mind it minced up and cooked in other things Richard had some Hawaiian tuna carpaccio and veal chops... he loves the lobster tail there but he's allergic now . It was nice to have some time alone to just relax and have a real conversation over dinner.
In the past couple of weeks we both have done a lot of reflecting about things and we started talking a lot about... perception. He brought up this really good point that everything in life really is just how you perceive it. I mean it's like vision. We are not "seeing" color... what we see is our perception of color once the light comes through our eyes. And using that same analogy, people are annoying only if we perceive them as annoying. Situations are what you make of it. I mean this sounds almost as simple as being optimistic vs. pessimistic but I think it's something we all overlook daily. I mean, we only think optimistically or pessimistically about the future, or things that we hope for. We never really apply it to people, or things that have happened in the past. I mean, when you really sit down and think about it, and pick things apart, you can see a lot of things in a different light. Also we talked a lot about accepting things that we cannot change. I mean in this world each person is only in charge of their own life. Who are you to go out and try to change someone else? I suppose he is right... your first step should be to look inside of yourself and change that part of you that perceives whatever problem it is to be a problem. A lot of conflicts arise in relationships when someone says "Why can't they just see things my way?".. and not enough of us say "Why do they see it this way and what kind of sense can I make of it so that it doesn't bother me?"... does that make sense? I don't know. If this really is a new way of thinking I'll try it out for a couple of weeks and see if it really will make a positive difference in my relationships.
Well it's 1am so I think I'm off to bed. I cannot wait to go to the optometrist next week... my glasses give me a migraine whenever I wear them.
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